Frequently Asked Questions
1. Wat exactly is Tantra?
For me, tantra is a way to connect deeply with yourself, others, and even everthing around you.
The love you will feel for yourself will make that all kinds of layers and masks will drop down.
Tantra makes energy flow and through this love and energy, blockages are released.
Tantra is not something you learn
It is something you feel in your body
2. What makes Body & Mind Tantra with you different than with others?
I don’t follow a method
I follow you
Your body
your pace
your experience
And while doing this, I combine Tantra Therapy with my 15+ years of experience in therapy and energy work, which is incredibly powerful and transformative.
3. Is Body & Mind Tantra the same as a tantra workshop or tantra massage?
No. Body & Mind Tantra is tailored to your personal processes. It's not about learning techniques, but about inner work, growth, and awareness. It's much more transformative. However, there are similarities with Tantra Workshops and Tantric massages. I may teach or give you specific techniques or massages and you can learn just as much from the transformational tantra sessions and enjoy them just as much you can learn and enjoy massages or workshops. You can take what you've experienced home with you, and besides the sessions being transformative, they can also be very pleasurable.
4. Can I also book a single Body & Mind Tantra Session (or several) without an overnight stay?
Yes, in case you live or stay close by, you can also come for a single Body & Mind Tantra Session or several sessions. Please get in touch to book an appointment or have a discovery call.
5. Do I need to have experience with Tantra in order to participate?
No, experience isn't necessary. Both beginners and those with previous tantra experience are welcome.
6. Is Tantra spiritual?
Tantra has spiritual roots, and I often find the sessions magical and deeply transformative. At the same time, I highly value understanding and logic. The sessions are practical, safe, and tailored to your personal journey. No religious affiliation is necessary.
7. Is there nudity during the sessions?
During Body & Mind Tantra sessions, you may be naked, but this isn't required. In my practice, we usually start clothed, and depending on what happens during the session, clothing may be removed. Not because it's required, but because it's more practical, for example, because a part of the body is being massaged or touched. Whether or not to be fully or partially clothed is always a matter of consultation, and you or both of you always have the final say in this.
8. Will somebody touch me during the sessions?
Touch is an important part of Tantra. Beforehand, I always ask if you're okay with being touched and if there are any parts of your body you don't want to be touched. I will ALWAYS act accordingly. These boundaries create safety, which is incredibly important during the session. I will also indicate that if you feel you don't want something or don't want to be touched somewhere you hadn't previously stated you didn't want, you can ALWAYS, or even should, say so. I will NEVER overstep your boundaries. Even if you don't want to be touched, we can still continue the sessions. The body can also be included without my touch, so touching is never necessary. At the same time, touch is a tremendous added value to the sessions, but it should never overstep your boundaries.
9. What if I feel uncomfortable during a session?
If you feel uncomfortable during a session, I'll always ask you to mention it. I'll probably already sense it, and together we can determine what we can do to make the session less uncomfortable. Of course, you're welcome to stop at any time.
10. Is Body & Mind Tantra focused on sex?
Tantra can be wonderful for your sex life, but transformational tantra sessions are not specifically focused on sex. Sensuality can and may play a role. If what's going on is linked to sensuality, it will be included in the session, but if not, it won't be addressed.
11. Is Body & Mind Tantra suitable for sexual blockages or traumas?
Yes, transformational tantra is particularly well-suited for sexual blockages or traumas. At the same time, transformational tantra is also very suitable for many other issues, even those unrelated to sexuality.
12. Can Body & Mind Tantra help with differences in desire within a relationship?
Yes, absolutely. We'll first look at where the difference in desire comes from and work with these causes.
13. Is this suitable if my partner is less open to tantra?
Yes, I think Body & Mind Tantra with me is definitely suitable if your partner is less open to tantra. I'm not from the tantric world myself and I'm not a stereotypical tantrika. Besides enjoying tantra and everything that some people consider spiritual or even vague, I'm also a very practical person who values understanding and logical thinking. If your partner is less open to tantra, it's a good idea to call me so we can discuss any concerns they may have.
14. What if my partner doesn't want to come?
Then you come alone! I learned everything about Tantra without my partner and it did a lot for me personally. AND I applied it at home with him, which worked wonderfully and meant a lot to our relationship.
15. Does Body & Mind Tantra also help with recurring arguments or emotional distance?
Yes, absolutely. We will explore the roots of the conflict or emotional distance and work with those underlying layers so that connection can return.
16. For the couple retreats, what is the difference between Body & Mind Tantra and Relationship Therapy?
Relationship therapy often focuses on communication, patterns, and resolving conflicts through conversation and insight. This is valuable and can bring great clarity.
Body & Mind Tantra also involves the body. We look not only at what happens between you, but especially at what lives within you. Through slowing down, feeling, and conscious presence, space is created to experience instead of simply analyzing.
Another important difference lies in the way difficult experiences are approached. In transformational tantra, pain, tension, or distance do not necessarily need to be “fixed.” Instead, we meet them with awareness. By staying present with what is there, something can soften and transform.
Body & Mind Tantra isn't just about processing what's difficult. It's also about relearning to enjoy. About touch without purpose. About intimacy without performance. About rediscovering vibrancy, joy, and genuine connection.
While relationship therapy helps us understand each other better, transformational tantra, in addition to understanding each other, also helps us reconnect with each other and rediscover together what can be pleasurable and beautiful.
17. What does a session look like?
A session with me lasts approximately two to three hours. We begin by discussing what's going on, what your needs are, and what needs to be addressed that day. Then, we delve into the session, which, despite having already discussed a lot, can also be very intuitive, with me trusting my and your intuition. During the session, you may lie, sit, or stand, depending entirely on what we're doing at the time. You're rarely passively experiencing, but rather an active part of the session and the experience.
18. Where do the sessions take place?
If you choose to come here in person, the sessions will take place in my practice on our property in Spain. Click here for the exact link to our location: https://maps.app.goo.gl/7Ga3nbyLCQGZPYUg9
If you choose online Body & Mind Tantra, the sessions will take place via video call, and you can choose a comfortable place at home where you won't be disturbed.
19. Which results can I expect from Body & Mind Tantra?
Love
One of the most important results is self-love. You'll find yourself deeply worthwhile and valued, regardless of what you do, achieve, or look like. One of my recently divorced clients, who struggled with her self-esteem, said after a few sessions, "I think I'm a great catch."
So, you'll love yourself and feel loved, and you'll feel worthy of receiving it.
(Kundalini) Energy
For many people who come to me for Body & Mind Tantra, the energy in their bodies becomes much more palpable. I love working with kundalini energy, and if you manage to get it flowing in you, this will feel amazing and incredibly alive. For couples, it is a fantastic bonus for their sex life, and for everyone, it is a wonderful way to feel the life energy flowing through your body (or bouncing, waltzing, or emanating with all its intensity and bliss 😉).
Fully Present
When you come here for a retreat, we will also work on being fully present. Being fully present is a wonderful bonus in your normal life, allowing you to be fully present with someone or something. This presence will bring you joy, pleasure and connection.
Connection
Tantra is all about connection. Connection with yourself and connection with others. You will be able to connect much more deeply with yourself and others. You will open up, without feeling unsafe or burdensome.
Healing and Change
Where necessary, we work with embracing, softening, or healing traumas, past experiences, or releasing or changing patterns. Not only on a conscious level, but also on an unconscious level. This allows you to take these changes home with you into your normal life.
Pleasure
Tantra is also about pleasure. Especially when you come here, you will simply enjoy it immensely. You will enjoy the sessions, but also simply being here; the peace, the nature, and the oh-so-wonderful energy of our place.
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